25 Questions to deep-dive into your adolescence

Work your way through these questions slowly as they may bring up difficult memories for you.

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1. Did you have friends as a teenager?
2. What kind of friend were you?
3. What interest or lack of interest did you have at school?
4. How was your social life?
5. Did you participate in sports? What was the reason of your participation or lack of it?
6. Were you a trouble maker? If so, in what way? Did you destroy property?
7. Did you resent leaders, either physically or mentally? Did you resent not being the most handsome or beautiful at school?
8. Did you feel that you were a coward because you didn’t want to fight? Or did you like to fight? Were you a bully?
9. Did you feel embarrassed because boys made fun of you or that girls avoided you or visa versa?
10. Were you opposed to other students in the gym class or the rest rooms that were older than you and more developed physically? Some people don’t develop physically until later on in adolescence. Were you like that? Some people feel inadequate as adults because they were at some time exposed to youngsters more developed at the time, If you feel uptight in this area, write down about your feelings. Did you resent not being one of the crowd? Or not being a leader? Or not being in? Where you shy or outgoing? How are you now? Does any particular type of person make you feel shy and self conscious now?
11. If you dropped out of school describe your reasons and feelings about this. Did anything happen to you in high school that was a continuing source of shame?
12. Did your parents compare you to other family members or friends? Did you resent them for wanting you to be like someone else?
13. How did you get the attention of your family? Did you pout, sulk, be a good child, have a temper tantrum or act like a dummy?
14. Do you remember the kind of lies you told, if any? How did you feel when you got caught lying?
15. What was the MOST embarrassing moment or incident in your adolescence? What other embarrassing incidents do you remember?
16. Were you jealous or envious of others?
17. If your sexual feelings were discounted and put down in your family, there is a strong possibility that you will feel guilty about them. We “catch” sexual attitudes. Did this happen to you?
18. Did you feel any of your brothers or sisters got more than you did? Write about your feelings as an adolescent.
19. Were you the kind of child you would want to have?
20. Were you a thief?
21. Were you ever double promoted in school? If so did you have trouble catching up emotionally? How did you act? Did you feel uncomfortable because you were younger than the other students? Did you feel uncomfortable because you were superior or inferior to other students?
22. Were you dependable as a friend, or did you break off relationships without any explanation when something or someone who seemed better came along?
23. Did you put one family member against another?
24. What was the best experience you had? What was the worst?
25. We’ve covered a great deal of ground with these questions. Now is there anything that made you feel particularly uncomfortable when writing about it? Have you put down everything that bothered you, even the simplest, most nitpicking thing? Anything is important if it troubles you; write it down.